A wife in New Jersey was left devastated after discovering old text messages on her husband's phone, where he called her 'ugly.' Jane Lewis, 40, checked her husband's phone with his permission last month and found a series of messages from when they first got together. In the messages, her husband described her as an 'ugly chick' who wanted him badly and bragged to his friend that he hadn't slept with her yet, even though she would do anything for him. The couple went on to get married in 2021, but Jane only found the messages recently.
When she confronted her husband, he apologized and claimed he was trying to make himself feel better at the time. Jane's confidence has been shattered, and she no longer believes her husband when he calls her beautiful. She admits that if she had discovered the messages earlier, she would have left him. Jane is now trying to move on from it, but she admits that her confidence has been deeply affected. She describes herself as having "ugly duckling syndrome" and will always think she is "bad looking."
However, she acknowledges that it is seven years later and they are married, so she is working on moving past it. Jane believes that if someone else had found the messages, she would advise them to leave, as knowing what she knows now, she wouldn't have stayed with him.
The couple met while Jane was working at a grocery store, and they moved in together quickly. Jane thought their relationship was going well at the time the messages were sent, and she describes her husband as kind and appreciative. She finds it puzzling that he treated her differently in front of his friends and believes that their relationship was based on a lie. Although Jane's husband did not comment on the situation, Jane is left questioning everything and struggling to rebuild her confidence.